Being present with children is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to their development, especially very little ones. That means the rest of the world stops and parents, friends, family let conversations and other noise fade into the background. Several years ago, my friend Amanda played with my grandchildren on the back deck. She was absorbed in the communication to the extent she didn't notice the camera circling her like a shark, waiting for just the right moment and angle. The children were NOT the background. They were the focus, and they responded to that intimacy. Because of this focus, they loved Amanda and squealed whenever she crossed the street. This is why: she was fully present. There are several things you can do to foster this connection. First, stoop down to their level or lift them up to yours. Second, get their attention before speaking. Third, find a place and a time where you can be available. Fourth, quiet the environment. And finally, look 'em in the eye.
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